April 11, 2009

• Update

  Perhaps a big update...Will anyone read it or comment on it?

   

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  Chloe was 16 months on the 7th of this month. She is a complete bundle of happiness. She is always laughing always smiling and very very rarely cries. She obeys simple commands such as "Come here, follow me, go give this to daddy, and the ever important CHLOE GRACE STOP." She is the love of my life and I would not have it anyother way. Her clothing size is so off lol. Her weight is 22 lbs and her height is 30 something inches. So for weight she is 60th percentile and height she is 30th percentile. She is a shorty lol. So clothing size she is 12 months pants and 18 - 24 month shirt LOL LOL. Let's see ... she still has excema (can't spell that) and i have to saw that after 16 months of batteling it i ccan finally get it under control. Here is my routine with it. I do NOT bathe her every day as that makes it worse. So every thrid day she has a bath. I use an oatmeal body wash by Johnsons (its the brown container) and I use a loofa type thing very gently on her skin. Rinse of course. I then dry her off by patting not rubbing the towel on her skin and I put Eucerin lotion everywhere. And baby powder on her bum. It's good ya! I think thats about it in the Chloe spectrum of life.

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  Me personally, I have been doing okay. I had to stop school for this semester becasue I have just been hurting way way too much. I have had crazy migraines and just been so sick. So for now no more school. But i did sign up for next semester. For those of you that don't know my major is " Business Administration." I was accepted into Salem State college but i don't think I am going to go becasue they don't have a really good online program. And for next semester I need it to be online as the new baby will have JUST been born. I have this thing about staying home for the first many months of the babies life. With chloe it was almost a year.

  This pregnancy is kickin my ass! I have not been doing well. I have been sick and just miserably tired. I felt the baby move around 16 or 17 weeks. (I am 20 weeks now) Its great to feel the little bit kicking around in there. This baby is also VERY active. More so then Chloe ever was. Well yesterday I went to the bathroom and wiped, there was a TON of discrarge and blood! I called the Dr. On call and ended up in the Labor and Delivery to be evaluated. After an ultra sound it was deteremined that I have a low lying placenta and that was probably the reason for the bledin. I need to take it really easy now and not lift or have sex! (Joe was a bit sad about that).; They also saw the sex of the baby and are you ready..90% sure it is a girl! Oh my noooo! LOL 2 girls with in 20 months of eachother. Quite scary. Oh no! JOe is still having a hard time adjusting to that fact lol. He REALLY wanted a boy. On the other bad side this means that I am again giogn to try for a boy I didn't want to have another baby after this one but damnit i can't cut him off. But if the 3rd is a girl...NO NO NO NO NO more kids lol. He is just doomed with tons of estrogen. The name we have so far is Sophia Kay. (The middle name wont change as it is his mothers middle name and we are kind of tributing it to her, as Grace was for my mother (it was her favorite name)). So that's wher I am at with the pregnancy.

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  Joe and I have been married a little over a month. (the 6th was one month) and boy has it been trouble some. Joe has a problem with speaking appropriately to other women. I found some conversations from before we were married (we were def together though) and they were talking about hooking upa nd meeting in a hotel room and shit. he gave her the address to his other famiies house and all that shit. It was ROUGH to read and I thought I was going to have a heart attack when i did. I still feel so hurt by it and I'm sure if we weren't married I would have left him immediately. We are married now though and I need to be strong for my kids. He swears he never has done anything (I believe him because even in the convos the say it never happened) Sometimes it's just hard to think "Well why aren't i enough" So he said that he feels like he has to talk to certian people that way to keep them interested. Well wtf! So that is something he is goign to work on. I am making him go to therepy and he agreed to it because he knows he needs it. he knows its not right to talk to anyone liek that when he is married. Also he has zero trust in me. Like Zero! I don't get it either. I mean...I haven't done anything. I haven't been the one to do anything or say anything. He is working on that too and getting a bit better.

  Sometimes I wish i knew this shit before we got married but i mean OTHER than this he is ag reat guy. He takes good care of me and onest to god you would think that Chloe was biologically his. he loves her with all of his heart! More than Eric..OMG that leads me to the next section...

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  Eric went to jail!!!!!!!!!! He hasn't paid child support since October. In March the intercepted his tax return (998 dollars) But I haven't gotten that yet. And even with that showing up on the balance his new balance is still 1400! He owes so much. He hasn't paid anything in 24 weeks. So we finally had a court date casue he hasn't been paying. First you meet with a mediator who goes back and forth between the two of you. The court dude said so waht do you want ot happen today and I was like well what can happen...The mediator says well he can go to jail for 30 days or you can let him off the hook, but he won't learn. So i said well if he can pay me 500 today I'll let it go until another date (which was set to be june 25) and so the guy went over and talked to Eric adn his mother and they obviouslyc oudn't do it so they said> I'll give you 100 today and then try and get a job to pay you back by the 25 of june. Mind you he hasn't been in work since october. It's been 6 motnhs most people could find a job by then! So i said fuck no, he hasn't paid me anything yet why would he start now?! So we went before the judge. There were 5 other cases for the DOR (Department of Revenue is the people that handles that kind of thing) And we were the first ones up. The DOR rep spoke for me and said pretty much everything i've already mentinoed and then the judge asked eric if he had anything to say. Of course eric speals off this sob story and lied saying he quit his jobbut really he was fired. The judge asked me if i had anything to sy and I didn't as i knew what wqas going to happen lol. The judge said to eric "You signed a conract saying you would pay 100 a week and you haven't. If you are giong to sign something, stick to it. You are sentanced to 30 days in teh house of corrections." So when he gets out there is a hearing on a thursday after that and they will put in a job order which means each week he has to paply to a certian amount of jobs and show proof like phone numbers and addresses and if he hasn't gotten a job 90 days from then OR started paying then he has to go back to jail for 60 days! I think he now knows I am not FUCKIGN AROUND! Not one little bit. So he is in jail until the 9th of may. hahahahah. (Funny thing is...) HIs mother didn't even stay for court. She lefthim! She must have known. His girlfriend must be pretty upset too. I am so happy. I mean now hes going to l earn he can't sit on the computer all day and do nothing and then go on ski vacations and out to the movies with his girlfriend.> he needs to be responsible and act like a father, or give up rights. One or the other. But I wont' liet him give up rights until he has paid me ll theback support he owes.

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  So there is my massive update. Comment if you want! tty all soon.

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