Ill catch you up through letters between me and my soon to be x-mother in law. Cliffs notes version - My husband of only 3 moths cheated on me with a married lesbian who also happens to be a very close family friend of theirs. They knew so i called them out on it called them all liars and blocked them all. Remember guys i'm 6 mohts pregnant and now this bitch says she might be pregnant. Any questions feel free to ask.

This is What Debi (his mother) wrote to me.

Hello, I know you don't want to talk to me but I just have to tell you my feelings and thoughts... First I want you to know that I never lied to you, at least not knowing I was. When I told you that Angel wasn't coming here I truely believed that she wasn't. When she showed up here I was very disappointed in my son and her as well. But I told you she is like a daughter to me and I would never be mean to her. Then when Joe went back and things seemed to be going ok I thought he told you that he lied to you and you both were trying to get past that and work things out. You never came out and asked if Angel came here, I know I could have told you and maybe I should have. But understand I didn't want to be the one to destroy your family. I love my son and I love you and I love Angel. I did try to tell you that I thought Angel was trying to hurt Joe and I was worried about all that. I never would hurt you or lie to you. You don't have to believe me but I needed to tell you my side too.
Yes my son did you wrong and he has hurt you and other people but that is not my fault. I don't know what happened to my son but he has changed into someone I don't know anymore. He never in his life until now has lied to me and this has hurt me deeply. I don't know if I can handle any more drama.
Also I am deeply hurt that you would think I wanted to hurt you, I thought you and I were close enough that you would see that I do truely care for you and want what is best for you, even if that wasn't my son. I told you whatever happened with you and him, we would still be family. I am very worried about you and hope you will be ok. I know you will never truely get over what he did to you but I hope you can heal enough to get on with life.. You have a beautiful little girl who needs you and loves you and another one on the way that will also love and need you. Remember you are their world.
I hope we can still be friends after all of this, but if you chose not to be I can understand. I just have one request,, please allow me to be in my granddaughter's life. I don't know if I can handle having another granddaughter out there that I don't get to know... I will not bother you again unless you want me to. If we don't talk again please take care of yourself and your little ones.. I love you and really miss you..

Love Deb

This is what I wrote back :

I will never take the girls away from you and your family.

She wrote this :

Thank you so much.. You don't know how hard it has been for me the past 24 hours. I thought for sure you hated me and would not allow me to be a part of the girls lives... Thank you for making me feel better today... I have my heart back now...

And I wrote back hardly able to control myself :

I would not only be punishing everyone else but hurting my girls by denying them their family. I was just so hurt that you guys knew the anti christ was in ur home and didn't tell me. Joe didn't tell me. Joe never told me anything. He lied and lied. Ya know...he brought you and your hsuband into his lies and htat is why I was so heartbroken. I had been trying to tell you guys for so long that he was cheating and being unfaithful with her but you chose to believe that they were teh saints and it just hurt so much when after all of this you finally saw that they were together and there was a good hcance i was right the whole time and didn't tell me . I was sent videos that he sent her that were of a sexual nature. I was sent pictures in the same nature. And even with thse in my hand he still lied to me. He was with me on the days that he was with her as well. He was with her on mothers day. I am well aware angel isn't walking clean in all of this but she is the only one that ever came forth and told me the whole truth, despit my constant begging of my husband. Joe is sick, and clearly needs help. Lies have been thrown aroudn left and right and I am well aware how easy it is to believe him. But i can't feel dirty any more, and thats exactly how I feel. I feel used abused adn dirty. I feel played. He was telling everyone how awful I was and how mean and kniving i was but to my face he told me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and wanted to work things out. He listend to me cry on the hpone when he was in florda for close to an hour swearing on sophias life that angel wasn't there. I had a lot of anger and took it out in the wrong way but still do feel very betrayed by you guys but I didn't need to be as mean as I was. that was my anger. I hope now you guys can see the real truth. I hope amanda told you about our 3 way conversation with the Danvers PD and that I DID NOT renew the restraining order and his arrest had nothign to do with me. Despite all of this I do stil love him and never want to see him in pain even though it seems he enjoys watchign me suffer. I wont wish him any harm and wont do anything to hurt him. You will all be apart of my life for years to come but forgive me if i don't want to get to involved as I am afraid of the lies and being hurt again. Joe and i can never be together again. I have ben lied to way to much and no woman ever deserves to see her husband showing other women the things he showed angel. I saw it Debi. SAW, not just heard and was told butu saw. I will never recover from that. I am not okay and will not be okay. I am having contractions due to this and am seeking professional help thorugh my priest and through therepy. The lies hes told have so severely damaged my sould I don't know how I am ever going tobe okay again. When I think about it i want to crawl out of my skin knowing that he was with angel one day tehn with me the very next or even a matter of hours later. How do you get over that? And you knwo what he told me? He told me he did it with angel cause he thought i was doing it with some guy that id met who i assured him was ugly as sin balding and no one id ever want to be iwth. But nope he figured i was cheating and had to go do it. Or so he says. I hate myself more than I've ever hated myself in my life because in a strange way i wanna blame myself for everythign that has happened. how am i ever goin to get better from this? I don't knwo that I will. I hate myself for the fact that I couldn't make my marriage work, I hate myself for the fact that I coudln't be good enough for him to want to stay with me, or tell the truth to me. I hate myself and I do blame myself. Often tiems I feel like if I was a better wife he woudln't have wanted to leave me and do the horrible things hes done to me. I just hurt from head to toe. I'm hurting in my soul. My dreams are haunting with visions of the thigns hes done with angel. The things hes said to me like calling ME a whore?! I have been faithful to him, i only ever wanted him. he was and forever will be the love of my life and i am devestated i wasn't good enough for him to wanna stay with. I'll never be okay agian. I don't know how i'm ever goin to be able to stop thinking that it was my fault my husband cheated on me with a married lesbian didn't wear a condom and now she might be pregnant. god help me if she is pregnant I won't be okay.

I just wanted to be todl the truth by someone Omissions hurt just as much as lies. I'm sorry i took out so much anger on u and ur family, it wont happen again. I dont know if ill ever be okay again so it wont be much for me not to say anyting mean to u gusy.

katie

She wrote this last part:

I am sorry that I didn't tell you the truth when I found it out but I couldn't do that to my son, and as a mother I know you understand that. I also am sorry that because of this I lost my daughter-inlaw. I know you are hurting and it will take a lot to heal the hurt. But I know you will be ok in time. I am not saying you will ever forget the pain but it will fade. I want you to know that every thing I ever told you was true and from my heart. I do love you as my daughter and I always will. I believe when you become friends you are friends for life and you are more than my friend always...I want you to know if you ever need anything even if it is to just talk I am here. You and Chloe are my family now and forever... As for Joe I don't know what is going to happen with him, I have not talked to him since last night just before he got arrested. I just wish he would talk to someone so we could know what is going on with him. Something is not right with him and I am worried it is something bad. I know you will never be with him again and I understand that. I just hope he is ok and can get through whatever it is that is eating at him. He is not my son that he was before he went to boot camp. No one believed me when he came home and I said he was different but now I think people can see I was right. I just wish I knew why. Please believe me he is really a good person deep down inside, it is just really deep right now.
I am sorry I don't mean to make you feel bad for him I just don't understand what went wrong with him... And you are someone I feel I can open up to.
I also want to tell you that this is not your fault and never was. You only tried to make things work. I know you love him and always will in your heart. I don't blame you for anything and you shouldn't either. Just try to think about the girls and you will make it... I will talk to you later. Keep your head up and remember you are loved and needed...

Love mom

I wont respond. I can't.

Thats it , i'm dead inside it all hurts too much.